Does anybody else hear a siren while driving, pray it's not a cop pulling you over, see a fire truck, and just sigh because oh my, firemen are just soooooo dreamy? Well, I mean they are, but that's not exactly the reason I've decided to write about why a firefighter would be the ideal person to get spontaneously eloped to in Vegas or to plan an extravagant ceremony for with the perfect dress and the perfect flowers and the perfect weather.
The reason I so badly want to marry a firefighter is because like me, many people spend their lives speaking without thinking and ending conversations as a disagreement. But how do I know that the person I'm irritated with isn't going to have a stroke later that die, or get hit by a car, or get caught in the wrong place at the wrong time. I can't know. And if one of these things occurs, my last conversation with them would have been a sour one, and that would have been even more tragic than the tragedy itself. My guilt would eat away at me for the rest of my life for being so selfish.
Marrying a firefighter -- or a cop, or a military officer, or anyone that lives each day in danger -- would change the way I live my life. At the very least, it would change how I treat my future husband. No matter what the disagreement we would be having, I would make sure they don't leave the door without them knowing I love them. Without knowing that my love is unconditional, despite our arguments. Because I couldn't let anyone I love die without knowing how much I loved them.
But, you and I don't need to marry a firefighter to live this way. Anyone can, with a little more self-accountability. Stop leaving arguments as arguments. Stop being so prideful that you can't apologize or accept your faults. Stop being so stubborn that you hold onto grudges. They are like rocks in your pocket weighing you down. Forgive others and let the weight go... Or if you can't let the disagreement end, if you need time to forgive or sort out your problems, take a break and tell them the conversation isn't over but for now you need them to know you love them. Just because the people around you don't risk their lives with their profession, doesn't mean you should take them for granted. Life is short. But, even if we had the immortality of vampires, and we have all of eternity to fight, to argue, to hate, don't choose hate. Choose love. And cherish each moment with each person.
But because we are mortal, the value of each moment is far more precious. Why is that something we always forget? And why is our love always something we assume others know?
Much love always from hails :')